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Best ways to stop feeling the urge to self harm/commit suicide? (Also, Rhett and Link's history with such matters.)
Everyone is basically ignoring me right now, either that or hating me, I'm ill, I'm fat, I'm unsociable, unloved, stupid, stubborn, pushy, every negative adjective fits my description. I'm going nowhere in life because everyone else around me is so much more talented in all the subjects. I'm never top of the class, unless it's in drama, but then they all hate me in there.
I tried talking to people, both outdoors, on social media sites, even on HERE, wanting to start a conversation that's interested me for so long:
Does Link have history with mental illness? Or maybe Rhett?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not calling them loopy. Even mild depression, which about 1 in 3 people experience, is considered mental illness.
It would be inspiring to hear if they had, and had managed to build a life around it or even has defeated it altogether. Most of the time they tell funny stories or interesting ones, but what would interest me is stories about how they've had to conquer feeling sad.
A lot of celebrities out there talk about mental illness, but there's just somethings that they never tell, something missing that I feel Rhett and Link, my idols, could place.
I don't know.
I'm probably being stupid.
I just wondered if anyone had both an answer to that burning question and if anyone knows how I might be able to make myself feel better. But you guys are probably annoyed by me too.
But anyway.
hm.
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K-ModPermalink Reply by Kevin (UniSeal) on -
Hi, Zoe. I'm not sure if either Rhett or Link have ever struggled with a mental illness, but I am sure that you are a valuable member of this Kommunity and we are glad to have you! I hope things start looking up for you soon, and feel free to leave me a comment if you need anything.
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Permalink Reply by Zoe- TheRandomKillerQueenPheonix on
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thank you.
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Permalink Reply by Connie K. (Mamoster) on
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Hi Zoe,
I don't recall Rhett or Link mentioning anything about having had depression (I've watched their show on and off since 2012)--it's not a topic that would be lightly mentioned in an online show. But I feel that they have both been through enough in the past to have had it (Link's childhood anxieties, Rhett's failure to become a basketball player, etc.). Specifically in regards to self-harm, sometimes Rhett seems uneasy when Link is holding a knife--but that is probably due to the fact that Link can be slightly reckless/impulsive at times.
As a person who has had severe depression and GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) before, I can relate to your feelings. I've had months when life just seemed to be a grey, stagnant mess that I cannot get out of. I have scars all over my forearm which reminds me daily that self-harm will only make things worse, never better.
Although it is a cliché, I think recognizing that things will change in time is a key in getting through tough times. For example, if you are indeed "fat", know that you can always lose weight--but at the same time, there really isn't anything wrong with having slightly more energy deposits in your body. (That being said, regular exercise, healthy diet and sufficient nightly sleep is extremely helpful if you have depression/suicide ideation. I know this both from a first-hand experience and from studying Psychology in college.) And trust me, things really do get a whole lot better (interpersonally) once you get out of high school.
Although I know it is hard, try not to compare yourself with others. You are the protagonist in your life--i.e. you are the only person who you will be stuck with for the rest of your life. You will eventually drift apart from most of the people you know now, so what's the point in hating yourself because you don't think you meet their expectations?
And please don't believe yourself to be so horrible--everyone is stubborn, pushy, stupid, etc. sometimes. There is no perfect human being in this world (especially because we all have a different definition of "perfection"). Rhett and Link are not perfect either--their jokes are mostly about their imperfections and mistakes! (And that is why I don't really think anyone should idolize a fellow human being...but that's totally beside the point.)At any rate, just always know that asking for help is never being bothersome or "being stupid"--it is exactly the right thing to do. Although most of us will not be able to give a helpful answer (I for one doubt that I am helping by leaving this reply), eventually you will get an answer that will brighten up your life.
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Thank you for such a detailed response, this really follows my train of thoughts very well!
Reading this every so often really helps, so thank you for sending this reply in.
:)
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Permalink Reply by R.Data Soong on
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I've had mild depression and I suffered from a social anxiety, besides I had constantly thoughts of suicide, so I can relate with you, and I know that the best thing to remember is that you're not alone, people can be hateful but not all of them; second thing, don't hate yourself because you don't reflect your expectations (I do this mistake all the time) and don't forget that you can improve yourself, that you can learn new things, meet new people, that your life is not ended yet.
I hope you'll feel better, I suggest you to try therapy anyway, I know it seems stupid, but knowing that someone was actually listening to me helped me a lot.
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Thank you for your reply, I am feeling better now, it just comes in a waves of better or worse.
I am currently seeing a therapist, so that's helping.
Thank you. :)
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I'm sorry to hear that Dane.
That's actually pretty much a mirror to what has happened to me.
I went to the hospital today, for scans. They found nothing yet again. I'm still ill.
But I lost half of the people I love out of it, and the ones who still put up with me, simply put up with me, and I barely see them because I'm always too ill to go outside. :L
But nowadays I force myself to go out, when I can. That really helps, even though it may not feel like it at the time.
Thank you for your reply. And things will get better for the both of us, I promise. x
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Permalink Reply by Paige Hall (Purple Platypus) on
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I am new to the Kommunity, so I'm not sure about Rhett and Link.
I have Bipolar Disorder and suffer from Panic Attacks. I've got self-harm scars and have struggled with suicidal thoughts, so I can relate to what you are saying.
So even if they don't struggle with mental illness, you are not alone here in the Kommunity.
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Thank you for the reply, Paige.
I can know how it can feel to have really severe Panic Attacks, as I suffer from very severe Anxiety. Also, my hormone levels are very much above average, so I was told that during my pubescent years I would have some of the same symptoms and emotional distress and change that those who suffer from bipolar do :0
I used to self harm, the last time I did was a one-off in April, but thankfully, I've realised that suicide and self harm is not the best way, unfortunately sometimes when I'm really upset, I can't help but do it or seriously contemplate it.
Thank you, Paige, I hope you have a good day! :)
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Permalink Reply by Aishah {Dragicorn} on
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i dont have bipolar disorder, but i have more other kinds of disorders and i suffer from clinical depression
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Permalink Reply by Miss Lexie Armitage on
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Hi Zoe
Ive just joined Rhett and Links Kommunity Group
You Could be far different now and not believe anything you put now (seen as it was wrote over a year ago) but I thought I'd reply anyway...
I have a mental health condition called Dissociative Identity Disorder (D.I.D) aka Multipule Personality Disorder (M.P.D) I also suffer with Depression, Anxiety, PTSD and OCD
I have Selfharmed in the past and have attempted suicide on many occasions in many different ways (neither of which im proud of) but the Scars on my wrists, lower and upper arms, hands thighs and stomach also my many hospital visits due to suicide attempts are proof that I have in the past been so down I felt no other way out but when I came out the other side I eventually found it wasn't the answer (I haven't selfharmed in over 2 years but one of my alters has harmed once but he has recently 'integrated' (a term used with D.I.D sufferers)
9 yrs ago I thought I was fat, ugly, and nobody could stand me then I met (who is now my 24hr (unpaid) carer, who has stuck by my side through so many nights of sitting up and watching me sleep just so he could wake me if I showed any signs that I was having a nightmare, and endless days and nights awake in hospitals by my side, he has cleaned my wounds and told me I'm nice and pretty (not in a purvy way) even though my medication made me put on 8 stone (which im now losing)
He also has mental health problems he has M.E. (C.F.S) depression, anxiety and OCD
I'm also disabled and spend most my time in an electric wheelchair due to problems with my back (caused by an accident 8yrs ago) and feet, but I don't let these things defeat me because I know that some people can't even walk or talk some people can't live a healthy lifestyle and that's something you can do if you choose to you don't have to push to make friends you will make them naturally when the time is right
I honestly have very few people I can call a friend and even fewer I have known since childhood (two people)
So don't worry that your not making friends right now though you probably have made one or two by now
Sometimes joining a club of interest like I do a sewing group (I like to make blankets and things, for personal use) but I've made friends their and by going to my local coffee shop regularly I've started to make friends there (either staff or other regulars)
So it's not impossible to make friends outside of school if that's a no go!
Take care and be kind to yourself
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